I received this comment the other day and I thought that rather than let it get lost in archives, I would share it here today and ask you if you have any advice or help to give. The comment was:
“My boyfriend and I are pretty much on the same page as far as our thoughts regarding finances go. We are planning on getting married next year, but as it’s his second marriage and he has two children living at home, and we’re both paying mortgages he is REALLY happy to scrimp and save on EVERY aspect of it, whereas I have never been married before so I feel there are some areas I would like to splurge a bit – like my ring, dress, reception and photographer… We’ve discussed areas we could save, does anyone have any tips?”
Firstly, I think it’s awesome you’re both on the same page when it comes to finances. Money can be a major point of contention in a relationship, so if you’re both like-minded when it comes to spending money, that will be a boon in the future.
It’s not unreasonable at all that you want to have a nice wedding. Like you said, this is a new experience for you, you want it to be special and you should remind your partner that.
My advice is to first sit down and discuss and agree upon a set budget. How much are you both willing to spend in total on your wedding? Weddings can be expensive (the average cost of a wedding in Australia is around $30,000), but they don’t have to be.
Once you’ve worked out a budget, you can then start planning what you can afford to splurge on and what you need to scrimp on. Are you comfortable hand making invitations, for instance?
The most important thing is to remember that you don’t have to spend a lot of money to have a wonderful day.
For example, when it came to our wedding, I bought my wedding dress for $130 on eBay. It’s a gorgeous dress and I loved it. We hired a photographer who was just breaking into the wedding photography business, and as he was building his portfolio, he was priced at a much lower rate than more established photographers.
I could have sworn that I wrote an article on saving money on a wedding, but I can’t find it, so I must have just dreamed that I wrote it, something I will have to write about in the future.
If you can help with tips or advice, it would be wonderful if you left a comment below.
Melissa Goodwin is a writer and the creator of Frugal and Thriving who has a passion for living frugally and encouraging people to thrive on any budget. The blog is nine years old and is almost like her eldest baby. Prior to being a blogger and mum (but not a mummy blogger), she worked as an accountant doing other people’s budgets, books and tax.