How do I know this?
Well, she drove into the side of our house.
No damage was done to our house (although her car is a little worse for wear), but I when I asked her if she was ok, she avalanched me with all the details of how stressed out she is at the moment.
Actually, driving into the side of our house was the grand finale to a week of stressed out events that included her daughter losing her brand new shoes at the park (upon returning, someone else had already claimed them), and locking herself out of the house, twice (ahem, there’s not much privacy when you live in a block of townhouses).
This has all cost her money which, she told me, she doesn’t have at the moment. Petrol to drive back to get the shoes, the cost of replacing the shoes, the cost of getting a locksmith to get into her house, twice, and the cost of repairing the car.
Now, I really feel for our neighbour. She’s having one of those weeks. I’ve had plenty of those weeks myself. Where everything is crazy. You’re on overdrive. Too stressed to sleep. A million things to do. Mistakes. Accidents. Bruises. Waste. Memory loss. Things piling up and up. Being pulled this way and that. Doing too many things at once. Multi-tasking. Multi-screwing-up. Multi-exploding.
Take a pause. Take a deep breath. Take a shot of bourbon (or not, I’m a bit partial to the occasional dram myself).
You will get more done, more efficiently, after a good break.
In fact, break less, after a good break.
Now write a list. Cross off everything that isn’t important, prioritise what is and focus on getting just that done. One task at a time. When the kids are asleep.
And get your power steering fixed.
At least, that’s my advice to our neighbour.
Melissa Goodwin is a writer and the creator of Frugal and Thriving who has a passion for living frugally and encouraging people to thrive on any budget. The blog is nine years old and is almost like her eldest baby. Prior to being a blogger and mum (but not a mummy blogger), she worked as an accountant doing other people’s budgets, books and tax.